This is a blog post that has just kept accumulating because it has various things that I just wanted to write down at various times in the past month, which means it's long and disorganized. But it's for posterity. Enjoy.
1/12/2013
Kevin likes to "cut scissors," as he puts it. Tonight he spent a good fifteen minutes cutting a piece of craft foam into little pieces. Meanwhile I sat across from him with my emotions swinging wildly from freaking out (in fear that he would blind himself with those scissors) and calmly enjoying the moment.
When Kevin hurts Heidi I often tell him to give her a hug and say, "I'm sorry, Heidi. Are you okay?" Well, yesterday Heidi handed me her stuffed dog and then reached out to pet it, saying, "I'm sorry, dog. Are you okay?"
Kevin knows how to say his own prayers, but sometimes he doesn't want to. So a lot of the time we end up telling him what to say, and we repeat ourselves several times to encourage him to copy what we said. One night I told him it was time to say his prayers, and he said, "Okay, Heidi, it's time to say your prayers." (She had already said her prayers.) Then he sat beside her and told her what to say, repeating himself several times if she didn't say anything. He was even scratching her back the way we do to get his attention if he's not saying his prayers. It was very sweet. I think it's funny when he sometimes tries to teach or encourage Heidi to do things that he still refuses to do himself.
I am really enjoying that Kevin occasionally draws things with a purpose now. He is even drawing people. A few days ago (1/28/13) he drew a circle with two legs, feet, and hands and said that he had drawn himself. Then he drew Heidi. He can be a perfectionist in some ways, which means that he has been really resistant to drawing and coloring for quite a while because he couldn't get on paper what he had in his mind.
Today (2/1/13) I was cleaning up a billion game pieces and Kevin decided to take lunch into his own hands. (He made a slab of graphite out of cheese and a tortilla because I wasn't watching closely enough, but that's a different story . . . ) When he opened the fridge, he pulled out a container with leftover canned green beans, which he dumped onto a plate and offered to Heidi, saying, "Oh, are you hungry, Heidi? Here, eat this treat." I had to chuckle because honestly nobody in this family wants to finish those green beans.
Kevin is very gradually making progress with learning to use the toilet. I would say that about five days out of the week he uses the toilet at least once. I've decided to leave him alone and let him do it himself because that's better than going back to square one, which is what happened last summer when I got too involved. That's just how things work with Kevin. It's hard to be the mom with the 3.5 year old who isn't potty trained. I can't think of any friends who have been judgmental, but it still kind of wears on your self-esteem even if you know it's not that important. I love Kevin, but subconsciously it starts to feel degrading at times to still be changing his diapers. I hope that makes sense. I am sort of hoping that Kevin will catch on in the next few months and then Heidi will be ready this summer. She is very interested and her communications skills are developing much earlier than with Kevin.
Heidi likes to make cute faces on purpose so that people will think how cute she is. Her favorite these days is to cock her head to one side and smile, and then say, "Hi," in a sweet little voice.
Heidi's language is developing so rapidly. It seems like Kevin didn't speak this well until he was maybe two or two and a half. She picks up on words really fast and is already saying sentences sometimes. She is very interested in names of body parts, clothes, and animals and their sounds.
We've discovered that Heidi's diaper rashes aren't as bad if we give her baths instead of completely wiping her after she has a soiled diaper. Then she usually gets to air dry for a few minutes. So now if we change her diaper and she doesn't get a bath she thinks she's been short-changed and she screams bloody murder and flails and thrashes. It's quite the feat to get a prefold and cover on her when she does that. Very frustrating, but I admit I also have to laugh at the drama. She is such a joyful little girl, but she can also throw quite the tantrum.
Heidi had her first kiss last night (1/19). My friend Annie and I decided (all in fun, of course) when her little boy, John, and Heidi were born that they are secretly betrothed. Last night at a ward party I turned to see Heidi and Johnny giving each other a hug, and then all of a sudden Heidi gave him a big kiss on the lips. I wished so badly that I had a camera right then. It was quite adorable.
My supply of pajama pants has been a little depleted lately. Some are wearing out, some are too small, and some are too big. So in December when flannel went on sale for $1.99/yd at Joann's I bought four bolts of fabric to make some pajama pants. I followed
this tutorial to use an old pair of pajama pants as a pattern, and it worked great for the one pair I have made so far. It took almost three yards to make one pair for me. It was nice to have a quick and successful project. I hate it when I spend a lot of time making something and in the end I don't really like the result.
I also made myself a skirt using some fabric my Grandma sent home with me. I started off using
this tutorial. Note to self, don't follow skirt tutorials made by skinny people if you are average sized. I followed her suggestion to make the circumference of the skirt 1.5 times the measurement of my waist, and it was enormous and looked awful. I felt depressed because it was my favorite of the fabric I brought home, but I cut off about 15 inches on one side and sewed a new side seam, and it actually turned out quite nicely!
I do have a couple of skirt patterns. When I bought them I forgot to check if they would work for the width of my fabric, and then later when I tried to cut out the fabric I realized all of my fabric was 45" and the patterns were for 60". But I recently found out that if you fold the fabric the other way (hamburger instead of hotdog?) it will work, so maybe now I can try that.
Oh, and I also figured out how to hem jeans using the original hem. There are a lot of tutorials online, but
this is the one I used. I wasn't sure how my old machine would handle it, but it did pretty well.
I think I've probably blogged before about my issues with getting into a Lifetime Fitness (LFIT) class at UNC. When I transferred here, they were being very picky about which transferred classes they would accept to fulfill the requirement. I had taken Ballroom Dance at BYU and Weight Lifting at NC State and they wouldn't accept either one. I made an appeal for them to accept the Weight Lifting class and they responded that my appeal was denied. So I tried every semester except when I was pregnant with Heidi to get into an LFIT class so I could get it out of the way. But UNC does this weird thing where they reserve LFIT classes for certain class years. So I could never get into LFIT classes (even if there were 15 spaces open) because I am a senior and the classes were all reserved for students from other years (I'm assuming freshmen and sophomores). It was very frustrating because I just wanted to get the class out of the way. Well, this semester I finally got into a class. I registered on the waitlist and ended up getting added to the class. Fast-forward to a week before classes start. I got an email from the teacher giving us instructions for paying the fee for the class. The fee was $40 and they would only accept cashier checks and money orders for payment, or you could pay using a credit card online. I was mortified by the cost of the fee. My tuition is supposed to be paying for my classes, and this is a required class that everyone has to take. I could understand a small towel fee for a uniform, but that seemed ridiculous. Out of the blue I decided to check my Tar Heel Tracker (the place where you can check your degree progress online) just to make sure I had to take this class. Lo and behold, something changed and they decided to allow the PE classes I took at BYU and NC State to count for the LFIT requirement. This is a change that must have happened in the past month or two, because when I checked before I was still required to take an LFIT class. I checked with an advisor to make sure I didn't have to take the class, and then I dropped it. So in the end I feel like it was a tender mercy that every time I tried to add an LFIT class to my schedule in previous semesters I wasn't able to get into a class. If I had been able to sign up for the class I would have had to pay a huge fee and then I would have found out later that I didn't even have to take it. I can think of a lot of things I would rather spend $40 (plus the tuition money) on. Now I have all my general education requirements taken care of!